Silver Lining (Nov 2-16)

We’re Teaching This:

Have you ever heard someone say: Every cloud has a silver lining? It means with every storm, with every cloud, there is a something good about it. That’s a nice little saying, but sometimes silver linings are hard to find in real life, aren’t they? It’s hard to see the good qualities when it comes to people at school who aren’t so nice to you or teachers who make your day miserable. Maybe the hardest place to see a silver lining is your family. In the best situations, family members can be annoying, but for many of us it goes beyond that to real brokenness and painful memories. Very few families in history have experienced more brokenness than Joseph’s did in the Bible. After his father played favorites and his brothers sold him into slavery, it must have been hard to believe any good would come out of his situation. But through Joseph’s story, we see that God can use us to change our relationship with even the most difficult family members. And if we’re willing to look for it, we may just find the silver lining in our family.

Think About This:

No one needs to tell you that we live in a fast-paced culture. You would be the first one to say that life is complicated, family is challenging and busyness, pressure and tension are probably at a high in your life. We may all have different circumstances creating the exhaustion that we find dictating our lives, but the end result is the same. We are tired. We are worn out. We are on our last nerve and operating off depleted reserves when it comes the people who need us the most: our family.

And the reality is, we aren’t the only ones stretched a little thin. Our students are too. Their tempers are even shorter than ours. They’re as quick to snap as we are.  So what do we do to relieve the tension and begin to bring sanity back to our families?

We get serious about having fun.

There is actually a science to it. When we laugh, enjoy ourselves, and learn to let go we can actually reduce the amount of stress in our lives. It feels counterintuitive. It feels counterproductive. But it’s true. Sometimes the best thing we can do for our family is to be as committed to fun as we are to our schedules. We need to get creative and intentional about ways we, as an entire family, can learn to have more fun and in the process actually begin to enjoy one another more.

• Try a change of scenery. Just leave the house together. Try heading to a local park for a picnic dinner or moving homework time to a coffee shop. Sometimes just going some place different can lighten the mood

• Try something new. Attempting something together that is a new experience for everyone can not only be fun but also strengthen our relationships. If you’re not sure where to start, check discount websites like www.groupon.com for inexpensive classes you can take as a family.

• Try something tried and true. Sometimes just the retelling of an old family story that always gets a laugh is enough to draw out the silver lining in our family. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself for the sake of your family. Nothing harms a family dynamic like everyone taking themselves too seriously. So pull out a photo album or drive by your old elementary school and have a good laugh.

The point is, in order to find the silver lining with our family, we have to make fun a priority. Just laugh.  Be goofy together. And in doing that you may find your teenagers aren’t as bad you thought they were—and they might end up thinking the same thing about you.

Try This

Sometimes the quickest way to see the best in someone is have fun with them. So try planning a “family fun night”.  Now hold on. Don’t check out yet. Maybe you worry your teenagers think this would be a terrible idea—that anything their family plans would be lame. But we did some of the work for you and asked real students what they would actually enjoy doing with their family. (See? They don’t really despise you all of the time, even though it may feel like it.)

So take a look at the list below and find one that works for your family—or use these ideas as a springboard to come up with your own.

I love going out to eat with my family and going shopping at weird little thrift stores in town. – Kat, 15.

I like going to the movies with them. – Sam, 16

  

Movie night at home is always fun. – Olivia, 17

Bowling night! – Maddie, 15

Family lake day! – Sean, 17s

I love vacations because it gets us away from other people so we can hang out together. –Sadie, 14

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Alive (Oct 12-26)

We’re Teaching This:

 

Words are powerful. They can make your day or ruin it. Words can make friends or create enemies. On a global level, words can start a revolution or bring peace. Now, think about how much more powerful God’s words are.  Simply by speaking He caused the world to be created along with everything in it— mountains, oceans, thunderstorms, planets, the sun. His words caused nations to rise and fall, and people who were dead to come back to life. God’s words are the most powerful force in our entire world, but if we’re honest…most of us don’t think of them that way. We hear “God’s Word” or “the Bible” and think about an old dusty book, something complicated, outdated, or even boring. But what if it was never meant to be that way? What if we’re missing out by seeing it as simply a history book or something to study? As we take a closer look at God’s Word, we may be surprised at what we find. God is inviting us to hold, read, and experience the same Word that created everything we see. It’s more than a book. It’s better than a story. It’s alive.

Think About This:

 

Do you like to study? Probably not. It’s almost a universal “dislike”. And if we’re honest, most of us don’t envy our student’s position of being required to study history or math or literature everyday. Sure, going back to relive parts of high school or middle school might be nice, but we’ll pass on the actual studying part. But did you know students often take their cues from their parents when it comes to learning, growing, and studying? In the article, “The Role of Parents, PBSparents.org puts it this way, “one thing remains constant: we are our children’s learning models. Our attitudes about education can inspire theirs and show them how to take charge of their own educational journey.” (http://www.pbs.org/parents/education/going-to-school/supporting-your-learner/role-of-parents/)

That means our attitude—good or bad—toward learning new things will ultimately rub off on our students. Obviously, this affects them when it comes to school—but it also impacts their willingness to learn and investigate areas of their faith as well. While we may feel there is value in learning the principles found in the Bible, and though we want our teenagers to begin to develop a faith of their own, with that comes some really tough questions. And fear of not having all the answers can intimidate us into believing it’s a job better left to the church. But what if talking about faith didn’t have to be so scary? What if having all of the answers wasn’t a pre-requisite for having a conversation?

One step any parent can take—no matter where they are in their personal faith journey—is to choose to model curiosity. The reality is, no parent has all the answers. But every parent has the ability to demonstrate a positive attitude toward learning by choosing to learn with their student.  This is true whether the topic is faith, history, literature, or Calculus. That’s why many schools have encouraged parents to see themselves as co-learners with their student. Seeing their parents model a healthy willingness to learn has a huge impact on the students’ attitudes.

So when you don’t know, ask questions. Find answers—together. No matter the subject, involve your student in the process. In doing so, you’ll teach them the confidence to do the same.

Try This

 

Did you know you don’t even have to believe something to learn from it? Think about it, did you ever learn something from a fiction book, even though you didn’t believe it actually happened? Probably so. Even if you aren’t sure whether you believe the Bible and all its teachings, you owe it to yourself (and to your child) to read at least part of the book that has so shaped our culture. If you do believe the Bible is true and accurate, that’s all the more reason to give it your time and attention.

 
This week, try reading just one verse and encourage your student to read the same one. You can use the example activity below. Write out a response to the question and then compare answers next time you’re together. It doesn’t have to be anything profound, just a simple take-away that each of you can share with the other.

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The following is a quote from Jesus. Read it and write an answer to the question below.

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12 NIV)

What is one way your life might look differently if you started living this way today?

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